Friday, January 23, 2009

Books Came Early--Let's Celebrate

Turns out that my April Blaze--here's the cover--is actually out in March, which is way cool, but also nerve-wracking because I haven't sent in an update for my Web site and I've been telling readers it's April, not March. Yikes!
So, in honor of my boo-boo and the always-exciting arrival of a box of author books, I'd like to give away 5 of these babies.
The story is about a Manhattan events planner who must return to her small town in southern Arizona to rescue her father's failing guest ranch...oh, and fall in love again with the guy she had a brief high school fling with, the foreman of the ranch.
There's suspense and humor and, of course, plenty of naked fun.
If you're interested in winning a copy of STILL IRRESISTIBLE, tell me what influences you most to buy a book: fave author, cover, back blurb, first page. If you saw MY cover, would you want to buy the book?
All my best,
Dawn, who has her box of books at her side

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

Someone Else's Pain

My 18-year-old son got his heart broken recently and I was reminded of something my husband said when we were contemplating having a child:
"Why would you bring into the world someone whose pain you'll feel more acutely than your own?"
I hate it when he's right. My entire body aches for my son, who's so puzzled because there was no sign of impending trouble, so he was caught off guard. The girl's confused and wants to be friends, but each encounter tears another hole in his heart.

My son is pretty stoic about his troubles, but after working an entire shift with her he called to ask me to wait up, if I could, so he could talk about it. He has always hated any of my questions about his social life. To ask for my support this way tells me he's hurting a great deal.

Of course I'm honored he trusts me enough to turn to me, but I so want to help him. What can I do to ease his pain?

I listened, I supported, I gave gentle advice, reminding him this is no reflection on his character or attractiveness, that he's been a terrific boyfriend, that he has to decide whether it's more painful to spend time with her as a friend than to go it alone. I told him that like everything in life, his feelings will change. It just takes time.

Still, I want to take this all away. Of course pain is part of life, but I somehow want to guard him a little longer. I guess that's a parent's eternal dream.

If only there were a guide for parents: "How to handle your child's heartbreak." Maybe I should get on that. Right now I'm going to pound a pillow and yell it all out.

Dawn Atkins